People think getting older signifies an end to their sexuality. Reaching 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond means your sex life is over – kaput! Forget this ridiculous nonsense. Libidos rage at any age!
Truth is, many older people continue to have satisfying sex lives. Yes, and I am referring to people in their 70s, 80s, and even 90s! Still skeptical? Take a look at the research.
University of Chicago study showed that 40% of men ages 75-85 remain sexually active. This study showed 52% of older women 60+ report having regular “good quality” sexual relations.
As you can tell, it’s time to officially throw out the myth that getting older means absence of sex! Here is the most common misconception that cultivates such myth.
PHYSICAL CHALLENGES aka EQUIPMENT NOT THE SAME
OK, so an older man’s erection isn’t what it was when he was 20, but it still works! And its true, menopause can lead to vaginal dryness, but for many, the desire is there!
Common obstacles as people age – decreased sex drive or erectile dysfunction – often leads people to give up on sex too easily. This is partly because we are not equipped to talk about sex. And often don’t seek outside help such as doctors and sex therapists.
Know the saying “getting older means getting wiser?” That saying also applies to sexuality. Understanding what happens to your body, including sexual response as we age, is important.
Knowledge leads to creativity during sex. Knowing that your partner needs extra stimulation to achieve an erection opens a room of possibilities for a variety of foreplays. Understanding that menopause may cause vaginal dryness can create a visit to the local sex store to shop for a variety of lubricants and more!
Even more important is that while the walls of the vagina may thin, the clitoris is its old sexual self! There is no degradation of that organ. Just a little more foreplay is necessary as the blood moves a bit slower to the genitals as we get older.
As people get older, for most, the body image issues they dealt with in 20s and 30s tend to drastically decline. This is partly due to the increased wisdom you tend to cultivate from life! Many women learn how to appreciate and truly love their bodies, leading to fewer inhibitions during sex.
Still struggling with a skeptic within? Case in point: research from various populations studies found that the quality of seniors’ sex lives has dramatically improved with 62% of women and 71% of men say they are sexually active.
Let me simply summarize: we are clearly designed to live longer and better if we have an active sex life. Sexual contact correlated to better health, higher relationship satisfaction and easier stress management. So if you still believe sex in older age is a no-no, think again! Our lives depend on us keeping our sexual energy and connection intact.
Lindau, S., Gavrilova, N. 2010. Sex, health, and years of sexually active life gained due to good health: evidence from two US population based cross sectional surveys of ageing. http://www.bmj.com/content/340/bmj.c810.abstract
Senior citizens increasingly satisfied with their sex lives. 2015. http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/03/150317103937.htm