Aww, those dirty words! They are powerful and seductive. They turn us on. They spice up our sexual lives.
Not surprising, “a lady in the parlor and a whore in the bedroom,” has been a favorite phrase of the many.
Just like any other sexual activity – dirty talk – isn’t going to be to everyone’s liking. Those who do aim at dirty whispers are often shy about it at first. And the so-called ‘experts,’ tend to overdo it.
This brings us to the art of dirty talk! Yes. Talking dirty to your sex partner is an art form that takes practice, attunement, and honesty. Most importantly, dirty talk is not disrespect. It is a sex play!
WHAT IS A DIRTY TALK?
Dirty talk aka sex talk aka naughty talk, is a sex play (remember “PLAY”) involving sensual/sexual phrasing in order to drive one’s partner or oneself wild. This is achieved through words and imagination leading to heightened sexual pleasure before and during sex.
SOFT-CORE DIRTY vs HARD-CORE TALK
Yes, there are subtypes! The soft-core dirty talk may include sweet nothings and “not so dirty” phrases. If you are a beginner, the soft-core is a great way to start. Try to stick with the words you already know and gradually add new naughty words. Here is some example of soft-core phrases and some of you may find that you are already a soft-core expert!
“I love the things you do with you tongue”
“Honey, you’re the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen!”
“I want you so bad”
The hard-core talk on the other hand, is more graphic. It may involve swear words and slang words. Many lovers find it incredibly hot, especially if their partner doesn’t usually swear. Here are some examples and as you can see, starting off on hard-core (if you never talked dirty to your partner) can be strange – to say the least!
“I want to rub my pussy all over your face”
“Spray your juice all over me”
“Put your big fat dick inside of my ass and fuck my brains out”
BEFORE YOU BEGIN…CONSIDER….
Now that you are – if you weren’t already – more familiar with the dirty talk, and would like to experiment with it, consider the following:
Please, do not say words that make you feel uncomfortable. Try to be yourself and say the words that come out naturally.
SET UP BOUNDARIES
This is where so called acclaimed ‘experts’ at dirty talk tend to overdo it. They whisper hard-core phrases to the partner who doesn’t find graphic words sexy or arousing. So when the subject of dirty talk comes sup, communicate your boundaries. If there are words that you don't like, you have to tell your partner.
STICK TO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU
Don’t try to sound like a porn star! You are you. The reason why dirty talk is so sexy to begin with, is because it’s not what you say but how you say it.
Dirty talk, like any other sexual activity, isn’t for everyone.
How To Talk Dirty. Cory Silverberg. http://sexuality.about.com/od/talkingwithpartners/ht/dirtytalk.htm