Tips on How to Stop Overanalyzing Whether You are Trans or Not!

If you're constantly questioning, "Am I trans? Am I not? Am I trans? Am I not?"—especially without moderate or severe gender dysphoria—this video is for you.

Here's what I see almost every single time: When you're left to your own devices trying to figure this out alone, you waste time and dig a bigger hole of uncertainty and confusion for yourself.

Why can't you solve this alone?

When pain points (severe dysphoria) are absent, it's often because you're not fully in touch with your body or feelings about your gender. You might be repressing parts of yourself, in denial, or engaging in strong resistance.

Here's the problem: Acknowledging you might be trans brings up tremendous anxiety and fears. Losing support, losing loved ones, being othered—it's terrifying. When there's fear, your ego puts up a wall as a defense mechanism.

What happens when the wall goes up:

Your mind starts to justify and rationalize the hell out of your experiences: "Oh, you just like to crossdress, and there's nothing to it. It's only sexual. This is just a phase. You're just confused. This is a midlife crisis."

You think you're exploring, but you're actually justifying and overrationalizing to maintain the status quo.

Some people's justifications are true (it is just crossdressing, you are gender fluid). But for many others, years get wasted without getting any nearer to an answer.

Why therapy helps—even with non-specialists:

Talking out loud is fundamentally different from thinking to yourself. You hear yourself think. Things become clearer. Even a generic therapist asking open-ended questions ("What makes you think that? What are those feelings telling you?") busts you open to explore deeper.