In this part 1 of the series, I discuss and acknowledge the importance of partner feelings and their sense of agency. The series are also essential for trans partners themselves to gain understanding.

During this phase, partners tend to experience variety of feelings as their information gets shared with them. Within this feelings, there tends to be most common responses people fall into.

After the partner has come out and you were able to process some of the feelings, the initial shock phase settles in. During this phase, you will experience variety of feelings which will land you into two most common groups.

This is an important phase to recognize as feelings of injustice come up along with any past hurt and pains. This phase can often be heated, emotionally painful, and one sided.

Now that negotiating phase has concluded, partners shift to reality and withdrawal phase where they confront their feelings. This is the most important phase for partners of trans individuals and needs to be recognized as such.

During this phase, a couple finally gets a chance to sit down and to discuss what each one can and cannot contribute to the potential of the relationship.

In this final video in the series, I am sharing tips and guidance I have learned from my years of experience. Oftentimes, a partner may occupy one, two or three phases at the same time.