Bargaining With Yourself: Risk & Benefit Analysis of Transition.
You've accumulated so much on one side—Dr. Z explains the trade-off reality for older adults considering transition.
This video is for mature individuals (30s and up) who have families, children, long-term relationships or marriages, stable careers. You've accumulated a lot sitting in the segment of your gender assigned at birth. Now you're considering your authentic identity over here where you haven't capitalized anything. You're wondering: How can I possibly make this leap when so much has accumulated over here that I don't want to risk or lose?
You've gone into loss aversion. Two trade-off categories: (1) Fear of losing everything accumulated—career, family, kids, partner. (2) Fear your body can't reach the congruency you want after being exposed to natal hormone so long—"I'll be an ugly woman," "I'll never fit in with men," "I'll never be accepted or validated."
These fears are rooted in realities you've observed—not delusions. This is the risk factor. Every trade-off has risk. You're hoping to gain yourself.
Watch to find out why the answer is "Yes, you might be an ugly woman but you'll be a HAPPIER ugly woman versus continuing as an attractive but incredibly miserable man," why even staying where you are trades off your health (high blood pressure, heart issues, stress), and why you need to move from "what if" to "now I'm doing it."
