Why Some Men Are Attracted to Trans Women!

Dr. Z discusses men being sexually attracted to trans women—whether before or after genital surgery—and addresses social shaming of men attracted to trans women, plus a major pet peeve: the misinformation that if you're a man attracted to trans women, you're definitely trans yourself and closeted.

This is not true. It may be the case sometimes, but it doesn't automatically correlate.

Many men consult Dr. Z with the same concern: "I'm not experiencing gender dysphoria. I feel comfortable with my assigned gender. I'm sexually and emotionally attracted to trans women. I'd like a relationship with trans women. What does this desire imply about my gender, my sexuality? Does it mean I'm trans? I'm confused."

The answer: If you're attracted to trans women, it means you're attracted to trans women. Period. We all have sexual preferences—a combination of innate desires and internal sexual landscape laid out through our histories.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with men being sexually, emotionally, intimately, and physically attracted to trans women.

What's wrong is social judgment, social impositions on what that might imply, and social shaming that makes it deeply wrong.

In this video, Dr. Z addresses:

The difference between genuine attraction and "chasers" who objectify (they lead with a strong sexual narrative and objectification). Why society instills guilt and shame to keep people within narrow perceptions of sexuality and desire. Why the narrative "attracted to trans women = you're closeted trans" is toxic (reduces trans women, strips their womanhood). How to explore attraction without shame, and why trans women should give men time to unfold emotionally before assuming they're chasers.