Coming Out to Your Partner? Avoid This Crucial Mistake!

Dr. Z addresses those in relationships—relationships of any kind, whether long-term marriage, short-term marriage, partnership, domestic partnership, whatever you consider a relationship with another person (a very close intimate relationship). She'll be sharing the number one mistake she sees people make when they get ready to come out to their partners in their relationship. She's also going to share an alternative—a way to come out that she has seen to be more effective. She'll describe what she means by effective as she goes along.

By now she has worked with a ton of couples and so many individuals who are in relationships. She has seen this mistake play out way too often. She has heard other people share the same pattern of mistakes. As a psychologist with quite an investigative mind, this led her to pay attention to this pattern and analyze what makes this pattern take place, why so many people think in the exact same pattern when it comes to coming out to their partner, and what is it about this particular way of coming out that is not effective.

What she means by not effective: it overwhelms your partner, makes your partner feel anxious and terrified about the future, and leads to more distancing instead of having broader and deeper conversations.

Watch this video as Dr. Z addresses the number one mistake and what to do instead.