Feel Pressured to Have Genital Surgery?
Pressure about your genitals—from the binary world and directly from the transgender community. Dr. Z shares a story: someone received pressure from trans communities that they had to go through ALL surgeries to solidify their identity as transgender. They went through bottom surgery but wish they hadn't—they were comfortable with their penis, had no dysphoria toward it, and now regret it.
Many trans women and trans men are very comfortable with their genitals, have no genital dysphoria, are comfortable being sexual and intimate. But there are pressures: From the world, a binary dichotomy still dictates penis = men, vagina = women. Difficult not to be affected subconsciously. From the trans community: some feel the transgender umbrella has gotten too broad, creating opinions that "if you're comfortable with your genitals, you're not really trans" or "you have to fully modify your body to fit dichotomy."
Dating complications add pressure—disclosing you still have genitals and are comfortable with them can affect relationships. You start thinking, "Maybe I need surgery after all, wouldn't it attract a better partner?"
Watch to find out Dr. Z's perspective on functionality vs comfort, why bodies are genderless, and how to be discerning instead of acting from pressure.
