What it Means to Accept Your Transgender Identity.
What the hell is acceptance? Dr. Z explains this elusive concept and the power behind truly accepting you're transgender.
Acceptance means accepting what's in front of you RIGHT NOW—not the past or future, just looking at where you're at and accepting the facts. Not how you feel about it, not what you think about it, not how your mind justifies it. Just the facts.
Example: Dr. Z carrying 15 extra pounds. Justifications: "I'm voluptuous," "I'm big-boned," "my metabolism is slower," "life's too short." These aren't acceptance—they're justifying reality in a way that makes it powerless. One day she realized: "I'm just 15 pounds heavier." That took away all justifications and stepped into a position of power to ask: Do I want to be 15 pounds heavier? What am I willing to do about it?
Acceptance presents you with a choice. It's NOT surrendering—it's looking at facts so you can change them. Many transgender people avoid acceptance, using language like "testosterone poisoning" or "I shouldn't have been born this way." While maybe helpful to the ego, it stagnates potential.
Watch to find out why truly accepting "I am a transgender person" lets you ask powerful questions: What do I need to be happy? What do I need to feel congruent? What do I need to be successful?
