2 Main Reasons Why Surgical Transition Alone Won't Make You Happy!
When you realize you are transgender, the desire and need to change your body to match your true gender is overwhelming.
This is especially true if you are experiencing severe dysphoria toward your body parts which communicate to the world your “assumed” gender:
facial hair
breasts/chest
genitals
voice
overall physique
Gender dysphoria, as you know, stems from an incongruence you feel between your biological sex and your true gender.
As you become cognizant of your dysphoria and your transgender identity, the need to change your body becomes a central point of your transition.
So central that you often obsessively fixate on wanting to have changed as quickly as possible.
Hoping that aligning your true gender via a surgical transition with the body you want will make everything magically disappear.
And while surgical transition does help relieve gender dysphoria, it also brings a dangerous companion on board you want to be mindful of!
This companion likes to tag along, especially when you place most of your expectations on surgical transition and what it will do for you.
And is responsible for the 2 Reasons Surgical Transition Alone Won’t Make You Happy!
#1 CHASING “THE BODY”
The first main reason surgical transition alone won’t make you happy is your emphasis on chasing the body you desire.
At first, this doesn’t seem to make any sense, does it? How could the body you badly want cause you unhappiness?
But it does. And here is why.
When you solely focus on the need to change your body, your focus shifts from internal to external.
As a result, your focus fixates on the need to “fix” or “modify” your body to match your true gender.
Because the expectation to “pass” is so great, externalization increases.
Bringing with it a need for external validation from others, which further intensifies inner insecurities, inferiority issues, and paranoia.
As well as, a need for social confirmation of your existence increases depression, anxiety, and isolation.
This externalization phenomenon also leads to a shift that oscillates between gender and body dysphoria.
Sometimes resulting in achieving physical “passibility” only to find yourself fixated on body dysphoria to the point of needing to perfect it via ongoing surgeries, body fillers, or injectables.
Chasing “the body,” as you can see, breeds its dangers which can result in ongoing feelings of dysphoria.
It is also responsible for the second main reason surgical transition alone won’t make you happy!
#2 LACK OF INNER INTEGRATION
When you focus most of your energy on achieving your desired body, you neglect the much-needed internal integration of your gender identity.
Internal integration of who you truly are is not only important but is vital to your long-lasting happiness.
That’s because gender transition is as much of an internal process as an external one. And disregarding one is akin to cutting off your right arm when you need both for a task.
If inner cohesion is not achieved, you’ll find yourself with a desired body but struggling with the following issues:
Feeling detached from your body.
Experiencing inner emptiness and not knowing why.
Still struggling with gender dysphoria with increased confusion why surgical transition didn’t alleviate these symptoms.
On-going feelings of imposter syndrome, feeling that you don’t fit in.
Lack of self-confidence and assertiveness.
Difficulties in relating to others, especially intimate partners.
As you can see, focusing mainly on surgical transition and neglecting your inner Self breeds problems you don’t want to have!
It is incredibly important to focus an equal amount of energy on your inner personal development as you would on your external self.
Surgical transition alone won’t make you happy!
A transition is a balanced approach to both your inner and external self, making you a well-rounded, insightful, assertive, and happy person!