Gender Transitioning & Self-Sabotage | How to Confront Your Tension & Fears!
Learn to move toward tension instead of against it—Dr. Z explains how avoiding discomfort is sabotaging your transition.
Tension means discomfort—fear, feeling you're not ready yet, feeling you don't have everything you need to move forward. The tension block happens when you tell yourself "I will do A until B is completed." What you're really doing is sabotaging yourself and avoiding dealing with your transition.
Real example: Someone hasn't come out at work even though it's time in their transition because they feel tension—if they come out, they'll have to present in their authentic gender, use right pronouns and name. They think "I'll wait until I'm more presentable." Dr. Z says the opposite needs to happen: confront the tension head-on.
Transition requires massive change—changes to your body, appearance, external presentation, social interactions, how you navigate life, how you feel about yourself. As humans, we avoid change even when we know it's good for us. Your ego employs resistance, self-sabotage, avoidance, escapism, telling yourself "I'll do it when I'm ready."
Watch to find out why there's never a "ready" feeling in transition, why confronting tension makes it diffuse (like fear that expands when avoided), and why practicing meeting tension makes you better at it.
