How to Deal with People Who Say it's "Your Choice" to be Transgender?
People say transition is a choice and you're being selfish—Dr. Z explains how to deal with them and why you can't prove them wrong.
Common scenarios: Parents say "you're making a choice, you're being selfish, this will kill us." Partners say "you're destroying the family, you're ruining our kids." The aim is to guilt you into not rocking their boat of comfort. Here's the oxymoron: medical doctors diagnose gender dysphoria, prescribe medical treatment in the form of hormones, insurance covers it as medical necessity including surgical services—yet society refuses to recognize it as medical treatment and still sees it as a choice.
Nobody wakes up choosing thousands of dollars in transition costs and all the challenges that come with it. The truth? You cannot change their minds. If they already see it as a choice, they've decided it's not a medical condition—just a whim, like choosing to wear red lipstick. They're not taking it seriously as something life-threatening or causing tremendous pain.
Watch to find out why arguing with these people is pointless, why Dr. Z calls it lack of common sense and stupidity (not just ignorance), and why your best option is limiting relationships with people on a different wavelength.
