What Your Fear is Really All About!
Ninety percent of your fears have to do with one thing—doing things. Dr. Z breaks down what's really underneath your fear of transition and why you're stuck.
Fear falls into two categories: First, physiological fear that tells you to seek safety (like seeing a lion in an alleyway). That's fear you should listen to. Second, fear of doing things—afraid to come out, afraid to tell HR you're trans, afraid to go on a dating site, afraid to have sex for the first time in your authentic gender. This fear has everything to do with just doing damn things.
Here's what's underneath that fear of taking action: you're afraid you won't be able to handle it. That's the unconscious root driving the fear. If you're afraid of getting misgendered, underneath that fear is being afraid you won't be able to handle getting misgendered. And it's true—you can't handle it yet because you haven't been in the situation. It's new territory and you're not meant to have the skill set to handle it until you actually handle it.
Watch to understand why the only way to combat fear is through action, how handling things minimizes fear over time, and why fear and life coexist together—they're not meant to be separated because fear shows you how to grow.
