Being stuck between two choices is challenging. It is easier to make decisions when one of the two options is not desirable.

It is common to wait for motivation before you feel like you can take action. The reality is that what we have been told about motivation and how it works does not work!

Transition can easily be compared to a rollercoaster ride. One day your emotions are up and you feel happy, euphoric, and joyful.

Are you tired of hearing others tell you it is a choice to be transgender? That you are choosing to transition? That you are choosing to potentially loose so much in your life including family and friends?

As an adult, you are able to make decisions such as starting gender transition, in order to better your physical and mental health. And yet many struggle with feelings of guilt in relation to their family in regards to their gender identity or their decisions about transition.

If you are on feminizing hormones, you know by experience it may have an effect on your sexual function .And if you are planning on taking feminizing hormones, you are about to find out how they may play a major role in your sex drive.

Have you noticed your Gender Dysphoria drastically increase during COVID period? Or you suddenly had a realization that you are transgender?

The question of whether you are really trans continues to haunt many. Even into transition and once you have completed it.

There will be challenges throughout your gender transition. Challenges are inevitable part of transition and will range from simple challenges to a more difficult ones.

Having transition goals without a strategy is akin to sailing without a compass! You need to have an outline of where you are going and how you will get there.

Energy cannot be created nor destroyed. It can only be converted. Have you asked yourself how you tend to use energy in your life?

There is no denying that gender transition is financially costly. Not to mention added emotional cost that goes along with it. Considering all the costs can feel incredibly overwhelming.

Do you find yourself starting some elements of transition only to stop. Yo Yo’ing back and forth between hormones, hair removal, or even voice therapy. Similar to the way people yo yo dieting.

Now I know you may be wondering, “Wait a second, I already had my gender crisis!” And while you may have had a life long awareness of gender dysphoria, and it may even feel like gender crisis, there is a difference.

According to the research, there are five most common regrets of the dying. Out of those five, the one that tops the list is: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

Living stealth aka not disclosing your transgender past, is a personal choice. Some people express increased anxiety living stealth post transition. Unsure why they feel anxiety given they have wrapped up transition in their lives.

Whether you are just exploring your gender, have started transition, or mid transition, there is a tendency to be hard on yourself. Thoughts such as “am I doing enough”, “should have started sooner, “ or “ it’s too late,”

It is inevitable to be surrounded by many voices. Many opinions. Many comments of others. After all, we don’t live in a vacuum and are daily bombarded by content and information. And while it is important to discern who you listen to and what feedback you take in, it is equally important to avoid taking in too much information.

It is inevitable to have various fears surrounding you as you consider gender transition. Even if you are already going through gender transition, fears are a common occurrence as you find your way to navigate the unknown waters. As a result of fears, you may be finding yourself in a “waiting phase.” A phase where you are at a standstill as you wait for fears to go away before you can take more steps forward.

As you go through transition, you may be giving off ambivalent signals to others around you. This may happen especially if you are feeling ambivalent yourself. The ambivalence toward others may make them feel in turn ambivalent about your gender identity. Watch as I discuss this in detail.