So here is a conundrum! You think and hope, transition will make you feel more in touch with yourself and more confident. But what happens when it doesn’t? What happens when you still struggle with confidence post transition?

It is common to experience resistance to your gender identity. It will even present in various different forms. But if this is my gender identity, my authentic self, why do I than resist it so much?

As you start hormones, it is natural to anticipate to feel better. Ideally, you should feel better. Affirmed. More congruent. But what happens if you don’t?

Transition process is filled with paper work as you run around trying to obtain “permission” letters to get affirming surgeries necessary for your well being. It can be dehumanizing and incredibly disempowering to sit in front of a mental health professional and to validate your sense of identity!

To this day I am surprised people still ask whether they are transgender if they decided not to pursue medical or surgical transition. As if without the transition, their sense of identity will vanish! It is important to remember that while many decide to transition, many do not! And the reasons are ample. Watch as I discuss this in detail.

Have you found yourself wanting to start transition only to find yourself avoiding it? Or throwing yourself into work when you should be getting ready to come out to family and friends? These behaviors and others, are common ways you tend to self-sabotage making progress in your life. Watch as I discuss this in detail.

This great question was asked by a viewer in comment section. What happens when people ask you how exactly can you know your gender beyond general stereotypes? Often leading some feeling confused and uncertain about their identity. Watch as I discuss this in detail.

Have you ever caught yourself reverting to “old” ways of behaving, speaking, walking, or even thinking? This phenomenon happens often and tends to occur in mid or post transition. It is called learned programming and can make you feel doubts and insecurity.

It is common to anticipate to feel a sense of relief after coming out to your partner. Hoping that you can now begin your transition with much needed support. Only to find yourself feel worse vs better. Watch as I discuss why this may happen.

Many experience fear of people abandoning you if you transition. People such as your family, your children, your partners, your friends. Often, this fear prevents you from moving forward in your life. Watch as I discuss two areas where this fear stems from and how to deal with it.

When it comes to transition, it is easy to get lost in paralysis analysis. As a result, you end up hitting a standstill. And that standstill can keep you away from making a progress. Watch as I discuss the problem with paralysis analysis.

In my videos, I often mention reaching a tipping point in transition. A point between 6 months to a year, when things suddenly tip. Tipping point is essential, especially to help you shift inner paradigms. Watch as I discuss what tipping point is and how vital it is.

It can be challenging to break free of your fears. Especially when they are related to your sense of who you are. A great way to think of your fears is a metaphor of your inner house. A home that you are planning to re-build and re-model within yourself. Remember, an inner house is a house that belongs to you. Nobody can ever come and foreclosure on your inner Self.

What if you feel going though transition at this point in your life is not worth it? This question often comes to mind to individuals who are older. Individuals who have families, children, perhaps even grandchildren. Wondering if the benefits of transition will outweigh potentially loosing or rocking the life they have build.

Many of you have been commenting on my DR Z PHD YouTube channel expressing your fears. Fears related to gender transition. Watch as I explore 3 biggest fears I have witnessed people tend to experience toward gender transition.

As you start gender transition, especially with the introduction of hormone regiment, dysphoria lessens. With dysphoria diminishing, fears tend to creep in. “Am I doing the right thing?” “Is transition the right choice?” These fears are common and normal part of the process.

As you go through gender transition and start feeling more confident and assertive, a need for validation arises. As a result, some, may look for validation through relationships with people of opposite gender. Often desiring to be complimented or seen as attractive.

In a beginning of transition and especially during the coming out phase, the loved ones can be very supportive. As you begin experiencing changes, suddenly they may experience a reality check. This “reality check” plays a role in their ability to continue supporting you.

Hormone therapy is an essential part for many individuals seeking transition. And while many of you want and even welcome physical changes on HRT, many do not. Especially individuals who identify as non binary and seek slight feminizing or masculinizing changes to their appearance. Watch as I discuss how you can approach this fear

Those of you who are parents and are planning or undergoing gender transition, often stumble upon dilemma of coming out to your kids. Many of you write to me, asking what’s the best way to come out to your kids and how to best share your gender identity with them.